//Author Your Golden Era
Sitting with reflection on this year and looking through a lens of gratitude and compassion for myself and those around me. Visiting the good, not-so-good, and the ‘I wish it didn’t happen that way’ moments. A few moments stuck out more upon reflection than they did initially.
Those couple of times included conversations that didn’t seem like much at the time but kinda had the lingering wow factor. The first one was being told by a family member that my healing journey (that I’ve been on for years now), living my life from this new place and not bending or breaking for or from the family trauma anymore has changed the framework and trajectory for the family as a whole. Sharing that they also think they’re ready to do the same thing; to untangle the unrest within and heal. Although this was not directly one of my healing journey goals, it was something I had always dreamed of but never put any hope behind it.
The second one was being told by someone that seeing my long-time partner (turned husband this year) and I together being each other’s best friend and working on having a balanced, enjoyable relationship was always the dream they had within their own marriage and now their long drawn out separation + divorce after almost 35 years together.
Looking back on this year also included highlights and lowlights that all together made a better me. Along with this new era ushering in also came new insight.
These photos capture times this past year when I felt this connection to me - beneath all the layers I'd built to protect myself.
These moments had themes, this feeling, an energy that resonated with me in a calming yet exciting way. I’ve been having this unlocked feeling that something new and that I’m in this new unheard land that I wasn’t quite sure I would ever reach. I wanted to name this new place, state of mind, state of life and as I searched around I kept seeing words and phrases that didn’t quite capture this and starting to talk about it I kept describing it as a new era in my life and eventually felt that golden era feel the most accurate description for this because that's what it feels like.
GOLDEN ERA is an era of time not where everything is perfect and not like some magical goal is reached, it is a state of being. Owning this new energy that you are capable of reaching + embracing resilience, making peace with the unfairness of the world, and finding balance within the woes. A level of contentedness that sets strong boundaries with areas of life that previously caused turmoil and discomfort.
I take this approach in therapy because it reflects trauma and adverse events treatment but in a digestible way outside of all the clinical talk.
The golden era is a leveling up of the trending #selfishera which is about boundaries, self-care, and protecting your inner world. It’s the regulated place within the #healingjourney where it feels like you can breathe again. The golden era is the post-growth era about living life in a content state with tools, habits, boundaries, and relationships that nurture. There is a comfort in the newness of prioritizing self-love and trusting yourself - to the core - that no matter what happens, you’ve got this!
What steps would help you get to this place?
How will you know you’ve made these steps?
Where can you find support in these steps?
Reaching out and having the support of a therapist was vital to my journey; where ever you may be in yours, an empathetic trustworthy safe space that is 'team you' with the same goal can be instrumental to //authoring your golden era.
Reach out now to learn how to start your journey to begin authoring your new era!